Remembering a loved ones voice

Do you remember what they sounded like? What your last conversation with them was? What their laugh sounded like?

In the past two years I have lost three grandparents all in different circumstances. Lately they’ve been crossing my mind and I’ve been missing them more. My mind plays scenarios from when they were alive.

The one thing I miss the most is their voices. I’ll always remember what they smelled like, what they wore, and how they looked in good health. But without recordings how do you remember what they sounded like and be sure that’s how they sounded?

The mind can play cruel tricks on you and your loved ones voices can easily be lost within your own thoughts processing their memories over and over again.

Like money, the more you use it the more diluted it becomes. The more you think of them speaking over the years after they passed, their voices in your head may not sound like how they actually spoke.

This scares me to think that one day I will not remember their voices or the last thing we said to each other. So I ask you again…

Do you remember what your loved one sounded like?

Do you remember what your last conversation with them was?

Do you remember what their laugh sounded like?

23 thoughts on “Remembering a loved ones voice

  1. Like you I can still hear some of my grandparents voices in my head.
    There is not a day go by that I don’t think of them.
    My maternal grandfather especially, he died in 1975 at the age of 57. I can hear his voice, the sound of him playing the guitar.
    The hurt is not so strong for time has calmed it but not erased it.
    Sometimes when I want to figure something out when it comes to baking I miss my maternal grandmother. I was so use to picking up the phone and asking her. She left us in 2004. It was her death that started me on my true journey of learning about life with being bi-polar.

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  2. Honestly, some voices have faded away but those voices, closest to my heart are still ringing in my ears. And though sound may fade, the people who we have become like, remain there, chirping wisdom in our minds. Those are the sweetest voices of all. Their lessons and wisdom are engraved in our souls, and even if we all were deaf, we could still hear their voices telling us which way to go.

    I hope that makes sense. I’m so sorry that you have lost so many people in such a short time! Grandparents are the best… I have a 92 year old grandmother, and lost 3 over the years. Life can never be the same but we somehow learn to live, with what the loved ones have taught us.

    Much love, Jessica.

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  3. I lost my father 22 January. I wished I taped our conversations. I believe we don’t forget. I hear my grandfather, my father voice when I speak. Now I am the grandfather who have patience for the children and kindness for the family. I hope I make them proud.

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  4. I really like that you posted this because I often find myself thinking about this and feeling guilty that I’ll start to forget them. This year will mark the 12th year since my step-father was taken and I always try to remember what he sounded like, the jokes he used to make. I’m grateful that we have pictures but their voice is something completely different

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    • Thank you, and I’m sorry for your loss. It doesn’t matter how long ago it was I know that probably still weighs on your heart.

      Yes your right. To talk about old times regarding a passed loved one is one thing but to hear their voice after they passed means that much more. Without a recording all that’s left is your memory and imagination to make up what they sounded like. It’s scary to think you might not remember…

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